Two Sides to Every Story
- Bishop Keith Butler
- May 3
- 2 min read
He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbor cometh and searcheth him. (Proverbs 18:17)
The Bible is full of wisdom. If the Bible states it, I have decided to believe it. Here, the proverb reveals a critical principle for wise living: the first person to share their story often appears correct, fair, and truthful—until someone else presents an alternative perspective. It reminds us to approach information with care and thoughtfulness, particularly in relationships and conflicts, because viewpoints can vastly differ based on individual experiences, emotions, and hidden motives. Human nature tends to embrace the first story we hear, especially if it resonates emotionally with us or those we know.
However, wisdom and spiritual maturity call us to pause, exercise discernment, and seek additional context before drawing conclusions. Moreover, this isn’t just about interpersonal relationships; it should also apply to the news you read and hear, or the information you gather from television or the internet. In today's fast-paced culture, where immediate reactions and judgments are commonplace, it's especially crucial to remember that there are always two sides to every story.
Don’t make decisions about people or situations without all the information. Responding quickly or passing judgment before fully understanding a matter is foolish and harmful. Acting without grasping the complete picture usually leads to embarrassment, regret, and conflict. God’s Word wisely advises us to practice patience, urging us to take the necessary time to fully gather facts and perspectives before forming an opinion about someone.
Practical Application
Don’t jump to conclusions or act on your initial emotional reaction when you receive information. Instead, pause and pray: "Lord, help me seek truth and wisdom. Protect me from acting prematurely. Grant me insight and patience to see the complete picture.” Follow His wisdom and ensure you gather all the information before making a judgment call.
